"There will be little rubs and disappointments everywhere, and we are all apt to expect too much; but then, if one scheme of happiness fails, human nature turns to another; if the first calculation is wrong, we make a second better: we find comfort somewhere."
- Jane Austen (Mansfield Park)
I'd like to think that everyone has their quirks. We all have a bad side... a side in which we are at times (constantly) ashamed of. Comparable to Yin and Yang, we all have a good and bad side that makes us who we are. For example, I know that one of my better traits would be being proactive (which I got from 2 years of high school military training) and the worst part of me comes from my inner attention whore. Again, the good side and the bad.
Recently, I've been granted a special trip to Singapore (yet again) with people that I don't normally hang out in a personal level. Let's just say that I am grateful for getting to know them more... their good sides and their bad ones, both.
Why?
Simply because I believe that we should accept people as a whole. Their quirks might hit us from time to time and we might actually feel like throwing them off a building if we had a chance, but nevertheless, we are people and we need to interact. Besides, what is life without a little drama, eh?
Over the year (I feel so old as I type that phrase), I've also come to realize that the secret in getting to know people would be staying positive. Move over, Mr. Pessimism (which oddly enough, reminds me of a person I once considered a friend), life is all about the positive side of things.
I look forward to what people can do rather than what they cannot (blame my Catholic school upbringing). I look forward towards people's jokes, witty remarks and intelligent questions rather than judge them solely on a sarcastic remark, plain answers and incomprehensible statements. More importantly, I look forward to what they can offer me rather that what remains to their debt.
I do this without any bias, without expecting anything in return. In the end, I take great comfort in knowing that I always turn towards man's ability to be better.
Forgetting Disappointments,
Someone Anxious.
